Define humour, there may be many definitions that we can find in Google. But I think it’s undefined as it has a relation to circumstances, people and language.
For example, friends of ours were staying over when they came to attend a wedding which we also attended. By the grace of God, we managed to get an apartment in Kochi with beautiful waterfront. I love the place and the home is built beautifully.
Our friend however speaks everything in jest and he told me ‘either you can sell this place by 2075 or convert your car into a boat’. That’s because due to global warming the sea will rise 3 meters. Haha…….
I am reminded of an incident when I visited my cousin’s new home in bangalore. I just read on ultimate compliment. This is about a guy who only says bad things visiting a beautiful home but could not find anything bad or fault to say. So he said “it will be an effort to break this house”. I thought that it is an ultimate compliment for a good home.
But I didn’t want to take any chance and first narrated what I read and complimented my cousin using the same words. I thought I delivered the ultimate compliment, but my cousin did not speak to me for 5 years!
There’s a guy in bangalore where we have an apartment. He thinks he is witty and try to be that with every sentence. Boring….
An elderly doctor staying in our building is like that. He wants his version of humour in everything, but the added pain is that it’s all too long and repetitive. Also we can’t be rude to stop it considering his age.
Humour doesn’t work always. At least there’s one thing required of a joke master. He should be able to laugh at his stupidity……
One of my favourite bosses has a saying ‘we train animals and coach people’. While giving business presentations, we were cautious not to use training, instead to say coaching or education.
That’s what happened with my coach. Actually I met her and assumed the role of mentor. But soon I realised the inner strength of the mentee and swiftly the transformation in reverse took place.
As a start she gave tips on working out and the adaptation showed changes in me. Naturally I called her my trainer. The response was ‘no I am the coach’.
The coach then introduced me to ‘the secret’ law of attraction, that happiness is the most important and the extreme ‘it’s ok to be selfish to be happy’
Recently I read a Facebook post that one falls in love three times in a lifetime. Well, my friends used to say that I am of a category who falls in love, say three times while on a short walk.
But the forward must be talking of true love. Of course you can’t be falling in three true loves in a short walk.
Well then it’s a relief that you can do it three times. Put it this way, happiness is most desired and you’re happy when in love. So the opportunity for us to be happy is enhanced three times. That’s a relief.
The rider here is that you have to believe that all the three true loves are not mutually exclusive. Otherwise, there’s no fun.
Don’t read me wrong, I am not ridiculing love per se. But perhaps you also will be relieved that the two or three you have is normal and not your fault. Others, please excuse.
Then why am I bringing this up when the subject is my coach?
Well, well; no kidding me……
I moved from Fitbit to Apple Watch for the glamour, though the sleep quality measurement was missing.
The solution was through Apps from the AppStore ‘HeartWatch’ and ‘Cardiogram’. Cardiogram has a tie-up with University of Southern California for a research and I promptly joined in. That gets each and every of my heartbeat transmitted online to the big data analytics of the research program. See, we can participate in good causes while doing personal things.
I have my Apple Watch on my wrist logged on to the sleep measuring feature when I go to bed. I have been observing my waking heartbeat at a healthy average of about 55 but a bit concerned about not meeting (sometimes with a good margin) my target of 7 hours of sleep.
The last few days were busy with guests staying over and wedding etc resulting in a shortage of regular exercise. So I hit the gym yesterday for over an hour for resistance and floor exercises. And I did my regular swim but reduced (slightly) to 70 non-stop laps instead of the regular 80 in the 20 meter pool.
I was truly and rightly tiered and managed to go to bed at 9.58 pm. There was a bit of disruption at midnight when the unseasonal thunder got my wife disturbed and asked whether she should switch off the TV, Fridge etc. I don’t know whether she did for I was really tired.
Morning I woke up a few minutes past 6 and realised that I was in bed for more than 8 hours after a very long time.
Here are the key items in the Apple Watch reading:
Regular Heartbeat- Average 62, minimum 55, highest 68 (this is for the full day)
Waking heartbeat- 50
Sleeping Heartbeat- Average for the 8 hours 64, minimum 49, maximum 112 (this high was just 9 minutes into sleep, did I see a bad or was it an exciting dream?).
Sleep recharge based on the 7 hour target- 88%. Interestingly the Watch program measures actual sleep based on movement analysis.
But quality of sleep is measured @ 65%.
We had a wedding ceremony last evening where both the bride and the groom are related to us. This is a typical situation in Kerala catholic families even though the size of the community is not small.
The reason why everyone in the family has a connection to everyone in the family of a similar standing and background, is the arranged marriage culture.
The youngsters are well educated, studying in great institutions across the globe, and still they are comfortable with arranged marriages.
The only reason that I can think of is probably that a matchmaking happens much earlier with the families identifying the match and encouraging interaction with each other for the identified victims.
I know, I am rude in saying victims because one gets amazed at the happiness of the couple at the church and during receptions.
This is a deviation from the earlier times when it was customary for the bride to cry as they are to leave the parents for some unknown guy. I am sure those were not the fake tears.
But now we find the newly married couple the most active and vibrant.
The good thing about this arrangement is that the post marriage assimilation of the families are smooth and welcome.
Someone mentioned that yesterday’s was a blue blood wedding, a term which infers that the forefathers of the families were baptised by St.Thomas in AD 52.
Then there are any number of blue blood and one could wonder how the apostle could handle so many.
But for the time being, it’s good to say that my family also belong to the exclusive group. After all there’s a claim that the researchers from my family Vellukunnel and a Namboothiri bramin family of Vellur illam met in the finding that a section of the illam got baptised by Thoma in 52 and settled down in the place where we are now.
It’s like the British and the French meeting under sea building the Eurotunnel.
Incidentally St Peter took two more years to build the church in Rome in 54!!!
I am a fairly good player in the social media with a good number of friends and connections. Whatsapp groups keep your alerts beeping all the time with just forwards repeated and repeated. Some forwards come with orders such as ‘you should see this video’; make sure you see till the end etc.
I run a whatsapp Broadcast Group ‘Cooking Exotica & Fitness’. I now need to start a sub group as the main group has reached the maximum permissible 256. Having said that, I am not sure how many consider my posts a botheration.
I am however not into Twitter though I have an account.
Blog site ‘WordPress’ is positively the number one in my ranking. I open it first when I look for activities on my connections.
This, I suppose, can be termed as strange as there are many connections of whom I have no personal details or they have mine.
But the comradeship, friendship and support mentality is just amazing.
I am not sure if this is an aberration, showing some flow in the personality. Well I don’t think so and I find much quality, excellence and free minded openness in the group.
Quite a fascinating and talented group and any acceptance here is priceless……
Thank you for being with me ❤️
The annual event on every second Saturday of August known as Nehru Trophy boat race is the best water competition.
It’s a 1.4 km race in the Kerala backwaters involving many classes and types of boats. The olympics among them is the ‘chundan vallam’ or the snake boat race.
One such boat is about 120 feet long accommodating well over 100 oarsmen who practice throughout the year for the competition.
The chundan vallam is locally made of a local hardwood called ‘anjili’. After the competition the boat is taken to the land and treated periodically with various types of local oils and even ghee. Part of the preparation includes oarsmen practicing on the boat (on land) rowing to the tune of the team special music.
The banks of the Punnamada lake where the race is held is teaming with human mass enjoying the competition. The VIP enclosure is so full that some people get to have just one foot landing on the ground. In Kerala everyone is a VIP.
The best to enjoy is on one of the local family boats who get permission to stay afloat along the boundary of the race course.
This year (yesterday August 12) I decided to watch on the TV but didn’t succeed as there was a delay in start due to malfunction of some attempted automation. I would like to see the traditional methods continued….
Interestingly a new entrant Gabriel chundan is the photo finish winner.
I am also amused at some new rules stipulating that not more than 25% of oarsmen can be from other states. I am reminded of an Egyptian stipulation that a good percentage of belly dancers performing should be Egyptian.
Kerala is becoming home to migrants with perhaps 12% of the population is now migrant labourers. Someone said that Kerala is to some other states like Dubai was to Mumbai. The latest per capita income published shows Kerala’s is 5 times to that of a big state.
Sorry for the digression… I become passionate when speaking of Kerala.
And then you must be thinking of visiting this ‘God’s Own County’ and it’s priceless to do it along with the boat race.
It’s the second Saturday in every august……