I have spoken about being selfish for happiness and finding out that the means adopted could be agonizing for some others. The reason being we have no idea what another person is handling in personal life.
As such if you love someone and do things unmindful of the loved one’s personal situation, and for your selfish motive of being happy, both will end up in a sorry state.
That means being selfish to be happy is not applicable always as the happiness of your loved one is perhaps more important than your own happiness.
Then what you can do is to be selfish in doing things to make, not you but your loved one happy.
I have embraced this line of thought and I think I did something in these lines today.
There were hurdles, the traffic in Bangalore is pretty bad and it becomes unimaginably horrible when it rains.
And rain it did and I was in the vehicle for hours. Normally I would get frustrated, but the very thought of the opportunity to do something for the loved one made me sit quite and I even dedicated the inconvenient suffering for strengthening the bond.
Overall a good feeling. I am happy that I could do something and make another person happy.